random thoughts on anything and everything

I know that being a teenager is really tough, i was one not to long ago myself, I know all the pressures, all the heartache, all the issues they face. what i don't exactly understand is what makes them make the decions they do. for example what does an 18yr. boy want with a 15yr girl? (besides the obvious) the reason this is weighing heavy on my mind is simple, my little cousin (18) who has this very irresponsible friend who is also 18,for whatever reason this friend who we'll call "S" decided that 15yrs. are what he is attracted to. now usually i keep my mouth shut, usually i just let "kids be kids" but this situation has really been bugging me. "S" decided that at a "party" to "hook-up" with this little girl (the 15yr) they had sex of course and turns out didn't use a condom, now she "thinks" she might be pregnet!!! OMG i could of slapped this boy, (i haven't met this girl as of yet) not only was this girl underage, but no condom..this just screams STUPID to me, first off i think where was this boy during health class in school, second where is this girls parents. apparently to this boy its really not that big of a deal that she is 15yr. just that she "might" be pregnet. to me this is a child, actually 2 children to be exact. the night "S" told me about his little "party" with the girl, he asked for my opions, and of course i couldn't help but give my "opinon" on the entire situation at hand, i told him how irresponsible that was not only was she a minor and he could do jail time, but no condom is one of the stupidest actions 2 people can make. i told him how i thought that he should of known better. of course being a teenage boy he came up with all sorts of excuses from " it has been 3 months since my last time and i didn't think of a condom" to " i know she was only 15yr. but p**** is p****" . i really don't know what these teenagers were thinking, i sorta feel sorry for this girl cause come to find out she just does this sort of thing with every guy she comes in contact with, another friend of my cousin said that if your just sitting by her she'll try to get you to sleep with her. now i know she is 15yr. she should know better but i wonder what sort of home life does she have that drives her to that reckless behavior, does she not feel love? its sad but she should know right from wrong. i know that teenagers are going to have sex if they want to, i was one, but i also know that at 15yr. you should not be thinking of such a grown-up act, especially with different boys all the time. like i said i usually just let "kids be kids" but as an adult i felt like i was right in trying to tell this child where he went wrong, how he needs to go about fixing this mistake and where he goes from here, okay so maybe i didn't go about it the right way, but i was so angry cause i have a little sister who is 21 now but at one time she was 15. my boyfriends little sister who is like mine as well is 15yr. and i would probably kill any 18yr. boy who tried to even date her ( i know i know its not right) . i just don't know when being a teenager meant dating someone way younger than you. when did it be okay to sleep with 15yrs. no matter if its a guy or a girl, and when did it get to be okay to just stop being a parent when kids need you the most. i know i don't know much about kids since i'm only 26 and don't have any yet, but i know what its like to be a teen, what they think and how they act when its just them and their peers, but seriously i think some people need to be knock up side the head when they have teens and say "okay now pay attention the next few years are going to be hell and they need you now more than ever so step up your game mom & dad"!
this little rant actually made me feel better, i've been holding all this in for the last week and its about to burst out, it doesn't make it any easier that every time i see this little boy he is bragging about sleeping with this little girl OMG boys and hormones. i've decided that i am glad i am not a teenager anymore. but of course when i was one, i was raised right, i did right, i was not at "parties" with boys at 15yr. not even 18, i didn't go out at night, i sure as hell didn't have sex at 15yr. i was afraid of my parents finding out cause if your a mom and you read this, you guys know everything about everything and everyone, its almost scary, i am 26 and my mom still knows all and sees all. i guess i was just raised different and i think we need to go back to when you could slap your kid in the face for screaming at you, spank them when they acted up, get rid of this time out BS and what not, go back to actual disipline then kids would straighten up and maybe not be having sex at 15yr without condoms.